Here are some things you need to know about your children. Parent-child relationship is a tricky and hugely attention deserving one. Its' really crucial and highly sensitive. Even a single word can bring your child's whole world crumbing down. I don't have kids and have no authority on this matter but still I feel strongly that there is a need for the parents of today and tomorrow to regard this is as extremely important...
Genuinely get interested in their lives. Well some people would think what parent isn't interested in their childs' life but trust me, there 'are' parents who don't even know their children at all or care about them.
Don’t raise your kid in a joint family until the family is like exquisitely loving and comfortable. And until after you’ve given each member a strict notice and understanding to NOT interfere in any of your Childs' matters, politely and tell them that you’ll appreciate any suggestions BUT you must remember those suggestions should NOT affect your child in any way.
Have kids ONLY after you know ALL abt child psyche, how to bring them up. How to deal with them. Etc.
Give them paints. Coloring pencils. Crayons. Etc art things. Tell them abt different color combinations. If you’re scared of the surroundings getting ruined well it’s high time you change your thinking. Kids are kids. If you will stop them from doing things they like, they will resist, rebel. Hatred can promote in their hearts towards you. Their self-esteem will be quashed. Confidence ruined. And what not. So please. Be careful.
Their OWN room please. Every individual deserves privacy starting right from their childhood. You can however always keep checks in certain ways.
Talking is the best way to get to know your child. If you focus on being close to them from the start.
Understanding them. Then they will always open up to you. And will spill everything. But then again you will have to be patient and listen even if they have murdered someone (God forbid. Lolz)
Dedicate and fix their Cartoon hours/time.
Animated movies.
Toys
Read them bed time stories
If they spend time doing WHATEVER they want LET THEM DO IT! Don’t stop them.
Take them to parks on a weekly/daily basis. Associating and developing love of nature can be really fruitful to some individuals.
NEVER compare them to any other person on this planet.
Allow then to hangout with their friends. HOWEVER keep a background check on the friends they have, meet their families, parents especially. Make sure they go to a public place. Tell them a specific time to reach back home. Keep in touch via cell phone. However don’t call like hilariously while they are hanging out with their friends. :P
Keep discussing their college apps with them. Have them see a career counselor if they are confused or even if they aren’t it helps a lot in figuring what they really want to do. Its very important. Support them in their decisions. See, let them become what they want. It’s their life, their dreams, I know they’re your children and your blood and you own them but then it comes to what you want not what they want. And its totally IRRATIONAL! Let them know your advice/suggestions etc however.But never impose.
NEVER like EVER force them or influence them in any way to choose a career what you want for them.
Don’t let them watch horror movies. Especially in their childhood. It DESTROYS and screws their mental chemistry like SO badly that you can’t imagine. The things they watch can result in nightmares, fear of things, disturbances in daily routine and much more disastrous consequences.
I’ll re-edit this late on. Lots to add on.
